We’ve talked about the importance of budgeting our time, our goals, and our resources. Now, I need to get to the core of our being, because no matter what we decide to do on the outside, we have to have balance in our core. I’m talking about budgeting our hearts, minds and souls.
What exactly is a budget? A budget is as system itemizing something we have, want, or need, and breaking it down into increments of debits and credits, incoming and outgoing, supply and demand, etc. It’s assessing what we have and developing a system to gain what we need. If we don’t make an honest assessment, we can make erroneous decisions that will cause us to over-budget or under-budget and fail. To reach success, we have to clearly see the path to that success, and then be faithful and committed to the budget we set to reach that desired success. We could get lucky, but luck always runs out. We’ve got to take control of our life, our choices, and our successes and failures.
Other resources we often overlook when we make a budget for our lives are those intangible resources, but happen to be the most essential in our success or failures of all other budgets. Just as important as budgeting our money, we have to budget our heart, our mind and our souls. We can over-extend ourselves, or under-utilize our potential by ignoring these resources. These are essentially that define who we are – the core of being a human. These are the elements that directly lead to our successes and failures, our happiness or depression, or our love or indifference.
Heart – We have to budget our hearts. We have to set a limit on the things, people, and focus we allow to affect our hearts. We can set our affection on the wrong things or people that will hurt us, destroy us, and even break us. We can also put too much focus on our heart, letting it lead us blindly, become obsessive over something or someone, and it will unbalance us. Balance is key. YES, love!!!! Oh, Mylanta, allow ourselves at times to get lost in our emotions. Enjoy the euphoria or pain of it, but we must keep it in balance. We can’t get blind and stupid by love to the point we lose sight of everything else, especially what we want and need, and who we are. That’s unhealthy and it becomes detrimental to any dreams we’ve planned or hoped to succeed. We also can’t chase our dreams without love, without using our hearts. If we close our hearts because we’ve been hurt, or we have failed before, or we are too afraid, then we’ve already failed. It means nothing. We can gain the world, but what good is it if we are indifferent? Indifference means not caring at all or feeling nothing - which is worse than hate. Hate is at least passionate. Indifference is void of passion. Indifference is cowardice. Without heart, we will give up, because it is our love for ourselves, for the dreams we have, for our family and the people we care about, that pushes us, inspires us, and gives everything we do meaning. Even God says that there are three essential things in this life – Faith, Hope and Love, and of those three, Love is the greatest. We can’t choose to love everyone and everything, nor can we choose to love nothing or no one. Protect our love. Protect what and who we set our affections toward.
Mind – we have to budget our minds. If we set our minds to too many things, and not balance it out, we will spend too much of one of our most valuable assets in the wrong area, on the wrong thing, or the wrong person, and not give the attention and focus we need to our goals, dreams, and aspirations. We have to protect our minds, protect what we focus on, what we allow to distract us. We can ‘check-out’ sometimes because life is hard. Many times, instead of focusing on what I needed, I allowed myself to be distracted by the wrong things or person to avoid thinking about the hard things. I’d “check-out”. I’ve also allowed myself to focus too much, to the point of obsession, and neglected to focus on other areas of my life. Neither was healthy or productive. There has to be a balance. We have to budget our minds and limit the things we focus on, allow distracting us, or taking up our time. Write out a list of what we want and need, and then protect our minds and do what we need to keep and maintain a balance to our focus.
Soul – this one is the part of us that we often neglect most. It’s that inner-being, and many of us can’t even recognize it. We try to numb it, ignore it, or control it. We can’t. This is core of who we are, and I believe this is the being that continues beyond our existence, beyond this physical plane, beyond this life. We have to budget for and with our souls. We have to make time for this part of us. What good is it to gain the world, but lose our souls? To allow life, people, circumstances, guilt, pain, and all other bullshit to come in destroy our souls? We can lie to the world. We can lie to ourselves, but our souls know who we are, what we really want, what we really need. We have to protect our souls – cut the vampires out of our lives, allow love into our lives, let love fill us, and then through our souls, let that love back out into the world around us. There are soulless people in this world. There is darkness and evil. I’ve seen it. I’ve experienced it. This world is so full of hateful, mean-spirited, selfish, awful people, but we don’t have to be one of them. It’s so important to protect and nourish our souls.
These are the keys to success – in EVERY area of life. We only get one. We only live ONCE. We only have a tiny portion of this existence to make a difference, to be counted, to have purpose. WE control what those are by how we budget our lives by the choices me make. Make good ones. Choose love.
Till next time,