Life is complicated. It’s filled with difficulties. No matter how ‘together’ we get ourselves, tragedy finds its way into our lives, upsetting our plans, providing roadblocks to the best of our intentions. If we are ‘waiting’ to live in any capacity, or for our lives to be less complicated before we open our hearts to love or happiness, then we are lying to ourselves and robbing ourselves of any love or happiness we could experience today. We need to get busy, NOW. We need to start living in the moment, right in the middle of our chaos. We need to get into the busyness of being happy.
Waiting never brought anything. Life doesn’t present itself out of the blue, we must go out and grab it, live it, and choose to fight for the success we want to enjoy. If we think things will be better LATER, when our priorities and problems are lighter, we are telling ourselves the biggest lie. It’s a lie that robs us of the love and happiness we could be enjoying now. If we can’t choose happiness now, or accept happiness in our lives now, we never will. There will always be reasons and excuses. We must choose happiness in the middle of our chaos if we ever want to experience it at all.
Are we waiting to love after …our kids are grown, our bills are paid, we lose weight, we have a better job, we have a bigger house, we have a better car, we have gained success, or we are healthier? Are we waiting to be happy to be happy? That’s stupid. It doesn’t work that way. If we think so, we are lying to ourselves and robbing ourselves of the happiness and love we could be enjoying now. Not only enjoying it, but allowing it to fuel, encourage, and inspire us – giving us the strength we need to obtain all those other things we want for ourselves and the ones we love. Do we want our children to be happy? How are we teaching them to be happy when our example is the opposite? Do we want to be an example of hope, determination, and success? Do we think we can teach something that we are not leading by example?
Love and happiness are our strength. It is the force in this universe that gives us the forte to properly deal with all the chaos the world throws at us. We are weak without it. God is love. Love is where we find forgiveness. It’s where we find hope. It’s where life truly happens. It’s where we learn to truly love those in our lives. Outside it, we only find pain and heartbreak, loneliness and fear. I speak of love, not lust, not obsession, not passion, but true love. Love that puts others’ needs before our own; love that reaches for us in the fullness of our failure, at our weakest, at our most low and desperate moments. The biggest lie we tell ourselves is that we should be alone. Choosing to be alone isn’t about trying to find ourselves, it’s about being afraid. Our fears keep us alone. Our fears make the self-destructive choices that only bring more chaos, more oppression, and bad decisions into our lives. Fear is our weakness. The only way to confront fear is to get back to the busyness of being happy.
1 John 4:7-8 “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.”
“Friends show their love in times of trouble, not in happiness.” ~Euripides
“The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.” ~Hubert Humphries
“We are born alone, we live alone, and we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.” Orson Welles