Path to Ruby Beach - Olympic National Park - 05/31/2013 |
This famous Buddha quote has me a little conflicted. I’ve always believed this sentiment, just
under a different context. “And the
Truth shall set you free.” I took the meaning to say bondage of mind, heart and
soul comes from the lack of being completely honest, and if we brave to be vulnerable,
face the Truth, we will be free of all those things that bring us down and bind
us.
I grew up among lies, manipulation, deception and abandonment. The truth became something precious to me; a treasured
jewel. It’s actually something I cannot
tolerate the lack of in those I allow in my life.
The first person I had to learn to be truthful with was
me. I’ve spent the last twenty-five
years healing, facing the truth and trying to discover who I am. It’s only been recently I’ve taken a huge
leap of faith, lowered my defense mechanisms, and exposed my heart through
complete honesty. It’s the scariest
thing I’ve ever done, and proving to be quite painful.
The reason it’s called facing fears, is because the
possibility of pain increases with every morsel of truth released. We live in such a judgmental world, most
often our greatest critic being ourselves. Our expectations are often unmet, in
ourselves and in each other, and so our first reactions are to pull back and
hide behind the lie, “I’m fine.” It’s
easier. It’s safer. But, it’s wrong.
My first reaction to pain is to run. My first reaction to confrontation is to
fight. My first reaction to fear is to throw
up walls and harden my heart. I’m trying
to fight against my first responses. I’m
trying to remain open and completely honest even as my heart breaks, seized
with panic attacks, and bombarded with overwhelming feelings of abandonment and
disappointment.
Maybe Buddha knew what he was talking about. Maybe the Truth really does set you
free. But, they should have a
disclaimer, saying it’ll more than likely be the most painful and hardest thing
you’ll ever have to do in your life.
Till next time,
~T.L. Gray
I want to say "thank you" one hundred times. Thank you for writing this. I really needed to read this right at this moment. Why do people lie all the time? It is awful. I feel terrible when people lie to me.
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