Monday, February 10, 2014
I'm learning that the happier I am, the happier people I attract, and the happier people become around me. Happiness and joy are contagious. I feel better, stronger and am less afraid. But also just as addictive are the negative depressives. Another important thing I'm learning is that I don't have to allow these negative depressives into my life - it's okay to cut them out.
I'm not talking about beautiful friends who may be having a bad day, a hard time, or a moment of sadness, weakness, or depression. Being a good friend is reaching out and being a comfort to them, lending a shoulder, a hug, an attentive ear - and doing all we can to be there and lift our friend out of the dark place. Those are the best opportunities to share our happiness, be an inspiration, and be a good friend. I wouldn't be where I am today without the wonderful friends in my life who helped me.
What I am talking about are those who ONLY look at the world with negative dark-colored glasses, where they seek out all that's wrong with everything (yes, the world sucks and there's a lot of bad things going on - I don't stick my head in mud and pretend I live in a fairy tale), look for the bad in everyone, expects everyone to hurt, have manipulative intents and alternative motives. I know. I used to be that hurt, angry, little girl. It's not a nice way to live. It ages and beats you down and crushes your spirit.
I'm becoming that irritating person who chooses to look for the silver-lining. I show up to work smiling, singing and spreading positive platitudes, skipping through the day making all negative depressives want to stab me in the face. But I choose to still smile, because they have no idea what I'm going through, or that most days I'm fighting some of the biggest battles in my life, or that I walk around terrified and alone almost all the time. My smile is my weapon. An upbeat song in my heart, or playing in my ears through my iPod, is my armor.
There will be days when I'm going to need to be carried, because I've dropped my weapons and have been overcome by the shadows of depression - but those days are happening less and less as I become happier.
Proverbs 16:24: "Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and medicine to the bones."
Proverbs 17:22: "A merry heart does good, like medicine. But a broken spirit dries the bones."
Smile today, especially if you don't feel like it.
Till next time,