After reading a blog post this morning from a fellow author friend of mine, Norma-Jean Connors, I began to take an assessment of my actions over the past year. I find myself proud, like a mama-bear, at the hard work Norma-Jean is putting into polishing her novel, Taken. While, Norma-Jean is no stranger to giving accolades, believe me - she drowns me with them, it's not the praise that makes me proud to be her friend; it's her passion and desire to succeed and move forward, and her appreciation. I don't feel like I'm wasting my time, talent and energy on her.
When I first began to move from the realm of writing as a hobby into the
world of publication, I met a wonderful group of writers who gave me their
valuable time and attention, teaching me, instructing me, and most of all
constructively criticizing my work. There were several times my feelings
were hurt, but I had to grow thick skin if I wanted my skills as a writer to
improve. You can't imagine how much I value those writers today.
They will always hold a special place in my heart - Ardyth DeBruyn, Marty
Norton, and others at CritiqueCircle.com.
As I measure my actions over the changing seasons, and think about all the
energy, time and effort I've poured into promoting, editing, teaching,
critiquing or simply trying to inspire other writers; quite frankly, I find
myself exhausted. Not because of what I've poured out, but because
of how that effort has been received. I look around and see great
puddles on the ground. I've poured a lot of myself, my gifts and
inspiration mostly on concrete, to a group of people so stiff I'm only left
with scattered pools. Well, NO LONGER. If my seeds are not
received, then I no longer choose to waste them on the stony places. I
will sow seed in good ground that will yield a crop. I have met some
really good grounds lately. There have been just as many fruitful gardens as
Whether you like or dislike the person on a personal level who pours their
time, effort or energy into you, have you shown them your appreciation? Or do you only give accolades to those you believe
will give them in return? I’d rather
never receive another accolade as long as I live, just to have ONE person be inspired.
Seems like I’ve got that wish.