Who do you aim to please the most? Who essentially has control of your mouth, your fingertips and your mind or emotions? Who truly pulls your strings? Do you think you're in control? While we may control the muscles that move our mouths and fingertips, there is an influence in our lives that controls mostly what we say, do and write. Still don't believe me?
too far in the distant past, I sat in a room full of writers and listened as a
particular writer read a portion of their work. I saw the words that had
been read caused a plethora of responses, some positive and some negative; some
with admiration while others with disgust. But what was even more clearly
observed, was the presence of censorship and political correctness taking hold
of mouths and clamping down on fingertips (the inability to write).
The only truth that escaped was a brief flash of facial expressions that
revealed what their mouths or fingers refused to acknowledge. This was supposed
to be a time when writers presented their work before their peers to receive an
honest critique. Yet, I've rarely ever seen that happen. I've
mostly witnessed false accolades, puffing of pride and disdain with a smile
spread with the same tenacity as politicians gearing for a campaign.
While we seek the approval and praise from our fellow artists, there are only
few who can handle receiving true and honest critique, and even fewer to can
give the same. Many claim to have thick skins, but only few really do.
not too far in the distant past, I have sat in room full of Christians and
listened to one particular person speak about a particular scripture and their
interpretation of the meaning. Again I
could see the different responses by the other Believer’s, some positive and
some negative; some with admiration while others with disgust. Just as clearly as with the writers above,
was the presence of censorship and religious political correctness taking hold
of mouths. Yet, their faces revealed the
true opinions that refused to escape their lips. The church is also a place many of us goes to
seek the approval and praise of our fellow Believers, yet there are only a few
who can handle receiving an honest truth, and even fewer who can give the same. Offenses are easily made and given in this
atmosphere where it should not.
often struggled with trying to reason out for myself why anyone would easily
hand over their freedom of opinion or ability to question the status quo to
someone or something else. While there
may be many reasons for doing so, there really isn’t any excuse. You can lay blame at the feet of politeness, a
desire to not offend, being a peacekeeper, not wanting to upset the apple cart,
etc. But, I still believe that the truth
is always the best policy, even if it hurts.
I refuse to believe a lie helps anyone
for any reason. Perhaps
because for so many years I forced to lie to hide the abuse that went on behind
closed doors, lying has left a bitter taste in my mouth. Perhaps because the only real help I’ve ever
received in my life was from people who were brave enough, and cared enough about
me, to tell me the truth, especially when it hurt.
often come across to many people as being brash and brazenly bold, without much
restraint or sympathy. People are most
often offended because I speak my mind, whether in agreement or
disagreement. I’ve been told I come
across as cold, unfeeling and judgmental.
It’s not that I don’t show emotion, I just don’t allow my emotions to
rule my decisions. Most often, as a
matter of fact, I make my decisions contrary to my emotions, because I know my
emotions are just that - emotional responses.
Emotions lie. Emotions
exaggerate. Emotions change. Emotions confuse the truth of matters. But, don’t mistake me – I have emotions. My
feelings get hurt, my pride gets trampled and my heart breaks just like
everyone else. I’m compassionate; I just
show my compassion differently than most around me. I don’t hate people, but I do hate a lot of stupid
(mostly selfish) decisions and messes that are made, especially when they made
out by emotions.
ultimate priority is to be true to myself and the plans I’ve made. I have a great faith in my God, and through
His love for me, I’ve learned to love myself.
That was the hardest lesson I’ve ever had to learn. In that love, I’ve also learned to respect
myself, trust myself and be true to myself and my dreams, and have cut the strings
of society that try to control and censor me.
So, when I open my mouth to speak, it is to please the person I’ve
become, not to please those around me. I’m
not afraid of someone else’s opinion, critique, acceptance, rejection,
understanding or support; only my own. At the end of all things, we all stand
alone. Therefore, I’m free to speak –
knowing it’s the Truth that sets me free.